Today the California Supreme Court is hearing arguments to either uphold or strike down Proposition 8 (the gay marriage ban). I am not gay, but I see the entire thing through a different set of eyes.
To those of conservative religious backgrounds I would like to say this much, you cannot (by Constitutional Law) marry religion with politics. If you cannot have prayer in school then you cannot have it in gay unions. A civil union is not the same as marriage meaning it does not bear all the rights and privileges of a marriage. If you truly seek a compromise, then have it named something other than marriage but containing all the benefits of one.
To those in the gay community I would say this, you have a very strong argument and history (like the racial equality protests of the 1960s) would seem to be on your side. But realize this, you are a minority. In a past election year thirteen (I believe it was that many) states turned down gay marriages. However you are just a sexual deviant, like those who engage in various fetishes and such. Your rights, however, shouldn’t be impeded.
To both sides I would impart the following; our Founding Fathers guaranteed the inalienable human rights to “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness”. Your happiness, whatever it maybe, might not be the same as someone else’s. Surely a compromise can be found that will satisfy all concerned. Hard stances will not resolve this issue, only understanding and a commitment to discuss possibilities will. Not calling it marriage, but meaning the same, should be enough to resolve this. Couples of same sex unions can say their married, it doesn’t hurt anyone. But not calling it by that name under the letter of the law should satisfy those on the far Right of the discussion. I’m sure this isn’t what anyone wants, but compromise is better than outright war. Sooner on later there is going to be causalities, it’s the American way.
Open your hearts and your minds and find a much more viable solution. If someone is sinning recall that Jesus said, “He without sin cast the first stone”. So even if it ends up being called marriage, you are not sinning. I personally believe God wants us all to be happy and if he made gay people (since there seems to be NO biological or psychological reason found) then he wishes them to be as happy as well. If nothing else, it’s food for thought.