Why This Behavior?
I just saw a picture of an Italian girl crying and totally beside herself because two cast members from Twilight: Eclipse were walking down the red carpet. The expression on her face was so emotional it looked like she was about to faint. Now before you think I’m going to bash Twilight, that’s not the purpose of this blog. I, being a man just have one question—what causes this behavior?
I remember archived footage of bobby-sockers who were screaming, crying and fainting during Frank Sinatra concerts. It also occurred during the seventies with David Cassidy, Andy Gibb and many others. The Backstreet Boys and the other boy-bands since the dawn of the eighties gain this reaction too. Female audience members shrieking over the music to the point you couldn’t hear it. I’ve even experienced this firsthand when at a Styx concert in 1980. Two teenage girls sitting behind me were screaming Tommy Shaw’s name trying desperately to get his attention—despite the fact we were sitting at the other end of the arena. He stood as much chance of hearing them as I do teleporting to Mars with the use of my mind. Eventually I had to turn around and tell them to shut the you-know-what up. I didn’t pay $20 a ticket for me and a friend to NOT hear the music of my favorite band.
I’m not picking on women. As a man I understand the female of the species is about as mysterious and unfathomable (to men) as why people keep electing Nancy Pelosi to Congress. Women are very emotional (not all, I’m not going to stereotype here) but this just doesn’t make sense to my hunter-gatherer mind. I’ve seen men “obsess” over a particular actress, singer or celebrity. I’ve seen them build shrines to these unreachable women in their rooms. But I’ve never seen one scream, cry or pass out when they come into proximity to them. I know guys who will see ANY movie with their “ideal” woman no matter how crappy the reviews are for it. But this doesn’t explain the wailing, sobbing and fainting. I can understand being nervous but sweet Mother of Pearl—acting like a hysterical idiot? I met James Doohan once. He played Scotty on Star Trek and was the reason I went into engineering. I got quiet and nervous but I didn’t being to screech and cry because I was talking to him. You could check out the following on Wikipedia which talks about parasocial interaction a one-sided emotional attachment between fans and those they idolize:
or you could follow this link to perhaps understand this phenomenon:
Perhaps it’s the power of the moment. The fact these ladies are so close to someone they identify with, find attractive and causes them to feel more emotion than an episode of “Sex in the City”. Men aren’t as in tune with their feelings like most females so perhaps this is why the above behavior just mystifies us. However I asked my wife and she doesn’t understand it either. She told me she’s NEVER acted that way in her entire life.
So drop a comment here and please explain why this happens. I’d love to fully understand this so I can move on to more important issues like finishing the editing of my next release, work on my book in progress or get the grass cut. Is this now expected behavior or something else? Oh by the way below is the picture that caused this blog…